pronouns: they, them, their

Discover Yourself.
Embrace Your Truth.
Celebrate Your Milestones.

This is what Rev. Chani Getter guides people to do whether officiating a wedding, working 1:1, or delivering a keynote to a crowd. Their far-reaching influence has changed the lives of people from every walk of life.

Rev. Chani's powerful storytelling and non-judgmental approach creates time and space where people can connect with their authentic selves and deepest yearnings to build a life beyond the limitations they have encountered.

A writer, speaker, therapist, and spiritual leader, Rev. Chani is also an award-winning activist and educator who supports a growing community of LGBTQ+ and non-binary people. Their life and work has been featured in two documentary films, "One of Us" (2017) and "Devout" (2012). 

Rev. Chani's brings a unique perspective and offers life-changing teachings that welcome, empower, and inspire every person in the room (or on Zoom). 

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rev. Chani getter, lcsw

pronouns: they, them, their

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Raised in an Ultra-Orthodox Hasidic Jewish home, Rev. Chani was placed in an arranged marriage at age 18 and quickly had three children.

During their second pregnancy, Rev. Chani learned what a lesbian was thanks to a secret television, Ellen DeGeneres, and a home dictionary. At last, they had a word for something they always knew themselves to be. Yet was never named or discussed. 

At 23, Rev. Chani left their marriage and started living as a single, out, proud, gay parent while staying deeply connected to their faith and Jewish practice. They left with barely a high school diploma and little work experience. Despite limited early education, Rev. Chani was determined to advance their education and career. 

While working full-time as a bookkeeper and raising three children alone, they earned a Bachelor’s degree in Human Development and a Master’s degree in Social Work, were ordained as an interfaith minister, and opened a private therapy practice.

LICENSURE:
  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), States of New Jersey and New York

DEGREES:
  • M.S. in Social Work, Rutgers University, 2020
  • Interfaith Minister, One Spirit Interfaith Seminary, 2009
  • B.A. in Human Development, Empire State College, 2006

CERTIFICATIONS:
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS), Internal Family Systems Institute, 2023 (Level 1)
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as tapping, ACEP, 2022 (Level 1)
  • Grief Educator, David Kessler Certificate Program, 2022
  • Coaching for Transformation, Certified Professional Coach, New York Open Center, 2006

Called "boundlessly inspiring," Rev. Chani's stories, teachings, and non-judgmental approach creates time and space where diverse audiences can reconnect with their authentic selves and find the clarity, inner peace, and inspiration they desire.

Rev. Chani's influence is far-reaching and has changed the lives of people from every walk of life. At every event, from one-hour talks to weekend retreats, Rev. Chani welcomes, empowers, and inspires every person in the room (or on Zoom).

Drawing on their lived experience, Rev. Chani combines personal development, ancient wisdom, and courageous risk-taking to deliver powerful keynote speeches to groups large and small. In many talks, Rev. Chani teaches audiences to name what's not working and build upon what is working to realize personal and professional dreams.

In 2013, Rev. Chani was recruited by CEO Lani Santo to join the the staff of Footsteps, a social service nonprofit in the NYC metro area. Providing comprehensive services, Footsteps supports people who have left, or are contemplating leaving, ultra-orthodox Jewish communities to lead self-determined lives.

In 2014, Rev. Chani was instrumental in launching Footsteps' Family Justice Program to support parents fighting to have access to their children despite leaving or contemplating leaving the community. The program's work includes supporting court custody cases and training attorneys and clinicians. Rev. Chani directed the program until 2020.

Now, as Scholar in Residence, Rev. Chani teaches, trains, and mentors staff at partner organizations to improve quality of service for individuals living or raised in insular communities and may have limited secular education or English language skills.

Many parents leaving Ultra-Orthodoxy face an uphill battle in the legal system because priority is given to ultra-Orthodox education, not parental bond or the emotional well-being of the child. This point of view often leads to parents losing custody and even visitation with their children. 

Rev. Chani is a fierce advocate for parents fighting to maintain relationships with their children. They train family attorneys to provide informed and culturally competent legal support to formerly ultra-Orthodox individuals and families. Rev. Chani also provides DEI and cultural competence training to staff at a wide variety of institutions including colleges and universities, social service agencies, nonprofit organizations, and corporations.

In 2014, Rev. Chani created the family justice program at Footsteps. This unique program provides emotional, legal, and practical support to formerly ultra-Orthodox people undergoing divorce and custody proceedings. The program also aims to build a history of legal rulings that support the rights of formerly ultra-Orthodox people to parent according to their own values.

For nearly 20 years, Rev. Chani has supported and nurtured a growing community of women, trans, gender queer, and non-binary people across North America and Europe. 

From 2007 until 2020, Rev. Chani convened and facilitated a monthly support group for LGBTQ+ women in New York City. The support group provided a community of trust and mutual aid for diverse individuals with a wide variety of experiences, ages, and identities. For several years, Rev. Chani also directed and lead annual weekend retreats for LGBTQ+ individuals and families with community building programs and workshops.

In 2022, Jewish Queer Youth (JQY) named Rev. Chani a "Jewish Queer Trailblazer" and honored their work with LGBTQ+ community with the Pride = Nachas Award. 

The Jewish Women's Archive highlights Rev. Chani's pivotal role in supporting the formation and development of organizations and resources for people wanting to stay connected to their Orthodox roots.

What are pronouns and why do they matter? How are  gender, sexuality, and gender expression different?

How do professionals deepen their awareness and cultural competency beyond their own lived experience? How do executives effectively build and lead inclusive and equitable workplaces where people of all identities can thrive?

Rev. Chani provides diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) and cultural competency training to staff at a wide variety of institutions including colleges and universities, social service agencies, nonprofit organizations, and corporations.

Rev. Chani helps groups directly address difficult, yet critical, topics of our day. By doing so, people can create authentic connections, improve communication, and enhance collaboration across lines of difference.

Life is filled with extraordinary events, in which we wish we could slow time, even if just for a moment, allowing us to savor the sweetness or grief inherent in what is in the moment. From the beginning of recorded time, these events have had rituals and ceremonies to mark their significance and provide a lasting memory for those who bear witness along with those directly affected.

Rev. Chani is an ordained interfaith minister and a beloved spiritual leader, teacher, and counselor. They are deeply familiar with the Jewish practices and rituals around these moments. They work with individuals and families to create meaningful ceremonies that honor the celebrants, incorporate their various traditions, and welcome all guests.

Rev. Chani is an ordinated interfaith minster who is called to explore the many forms of the divine. As a spiritual counselor, Rev. Chani provides ministry to individuals, couples, and families including interfaith couples, merging families, and congregants struggling with grief, trauma, or marginalized identities. 

Rev. Chani's expertise includes working with people raised in insular or fundamental religious communities who are struggling with residual imprint of early childhood dogma.

Rev. Chani has worked extensively with ex-ultra-orthodox Jews, ex-Mormon, ex-Muslim, and ex-fundamental Christians (especially those home-schooled).

Chani is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), grief educator, and trauma therapist with a private practice in New Jersey. They see clients in-person and virtually.

Chani works with people who have experienced trauma, be it religious, sexual abuse, or other. Chani understands the myriad ways in which  trauma affects the brain, body, and mind and how it can influence every aspect of daily life, even years or decades later.

Chani's loving, non-judgmental approach provides time and space for patients to reconnect with their authentic selves and find the clarity, inner peace, and inspiration they desire. 

Chani is currently accepting new clients seeking private therapy or counseling.

learn more

Raised in an Ultra-Orthodox Hasidic Jewish home, Rev. Chani was placed in an arranged marriage at age 18 and quickly had three children.

During their second pregnancy, Rev. Chani learned what a lesbian was thanks to a secret television, Ellen DeGeneres, and a home dictionary. At last, they had a word for something they always knew themselves to be. Yet was never named or discussed. 

At 23, Rev. Chani left their marriage and started living as a single, out, proud, gay parent while staying deeply connected to their faith and Jewish practice. They left with barely a high school diploma and little work experience. Despite limited early education, Rev. Chani was determined to advance their education and career. 

EDUCATION

While working full-time as a bookkeeper and raising three children alone, they earned a bachelor’s degree in human development and a master’s degree in social work, were ordained as an interfaith minister, and opened a private therapy practice.

LICENSURE:
  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), States of New Jersey and New York

DEGREES:
  • M.S. in Social Work, Rutgers University, 2020
  • Interfaith Minister, One Spirit Interfaith Seminary, 2009
  • B.A. in Human Development, Empire State College, 2006

CERTIFICATIONS:
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS), Internal Family Systems Institute, 2023 (Level 1)
  • Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT), also known as tapping, ACEP, 2022 (Level 1)
  • Grief Educator, David Kessler Certificate Program,2022
  • Coaching for Transformation, Certified Professional Coach, New York Open Center, 2006

MOTIVATIONAL
SPEAKER

Called "boundlessly inspiring," Rev. Chani's stories, teachings, and non-judgmental approach creates time and space where diverse audiences can reconnect with their authentic selves and find the clarity, inner peace, and inspiration they desire.

Rev. Chani's influence is far-reaching and has changed the lives of people from every walk of life. At every event, from one-hour talks to weekend retreats, Rev. Chani welcomes, empowers, and inspires every person in the room (or on Zoom).

Drawing on their lived experience, Rev. Chani combines personal development, ancient wisdom, and courageous risk-taking to deliver powerful keynote speeches to groups large and small. In many talks, Rev. Chani teaches audiences to name what's not working and build upon what is working to realize personal and professional dreams.

WORK WITH
FOOTSTEPS

In 2013, Rev. Chani was recruited by CEO Lani Santo to join the the staff of Footsteps, a social service nonprofit in the NYC metro area. Providing comprehensive services, Footsteps supports people who have left, or are contemplating leaving, ultra-orthodox Jewish communities to lead self-determined lives.

In 2014, Rev. Chani was instrumental in launching Footsteps' Family Justice Program to support parents fighting to have access to their children despite leaving or contemplating leaving the community. The program's work includes supporting court custody cases and training attorneys and clinicians. Rev. Chani directed the program until 2020.

Now, as Scholar in Residence, Rev. Chani teaches, trains, and mentors staff at partner organizations to improve quality of service for individuals living or raised in insular communities and may have limited secular education or English language skills.

WORK WITH
FAMILY COURTS

Many parents leaving Ultra-Orthodoxy face an uphill battle in the legal system because priority is given to ultra-Orthodox education, not parental bond or the emotional well-being of the child. This point of view often leads to parents losing custody and even visitation with their children. 

Rev. Chani is a fierce advocate for parents fighting to maintain relationships with their children. They train family attorneys to provide informed and culturally competent legal support to formerly ultra-Orthodox individuals and families. Rev. Chani also provides DEI and cultural competence training to staff at a wide variety of institutions including colleges and universities, social service agencies, nonprofit organizations, and corporations.

In 2014, Rev. Chani created the family justice program at Footsteps. This unique program provides emotional, legal, and practical support to formerly ultra-Orthodox people undergoing divorce and custody proceedings. The program also aims to build a history of legal rulings that support the rights of formerly ultra-Orthodox people to parent according to their own values.

WORK WITH lgbtq+ community

For nearly 20 years, Rev. Chani has supported and nurtured a growing community of women, trans, gender queer, and non-binary people across North America and Europe. 

From 2007 until 2020, Rev. Chani convened and facilitated a monthly support group for LGBTQ+ women in New York City. The support group provided a community of trust and mutual aid for diverse individuals with a wide variety of experiences, ages, and identities. For several years, Rev. Chani also directed and lead annual weekend retreats for LGBTQ+ individuals and families with community building programs and workshops.

In 2022, Jewish Queer Youth (JQY) named Rev. Chani a "Jewish Queer Trailblazer" and honored their work with LGBTQ+ community with the Pride = Nachas Award. 

The Jewish Women's Archive highlights Rev. Chani's pivotal role in supporting the formation and development of organizations and resources for people wanting to stay connected to their Orthodox roots.

dei & cultural competency training

What are pronouns and why do they matter? How are gender, sexuality, and gender expression different?

How do professionals deepen their awareness and cultural competency beyond their own lived experience? How do executives effectively build and lead inclusive and equitable workplaces where people of all identities can thrive?

Rev. Chani provides diversity, equity, and inclusion (DEI) and cultural competency training to staff at a wide variety of institutions including colleges and universities, social service agencies, nonprofit organizations, and corporations.

Rev. Chani helps groups directly address difficult, yet critical, topics of our day. By doing so, people can create authentic connections, improve communication, and enhance collaboration across lines of difference.

interfaith minister
and officiant

Life is filled with extraordinary events in which we wish we could slow time even if just for a moment, allowing us to savor the sweetness or grief inherent in what is. From the beginning of recorded time, these moments have had rituals and ceremonies to mark their significance and provide a lasting memory for those who bear witness along with those directly affected.

Rev. Chani is deeply familiar with the Jewish practices and rituals around these moments, and is ordained as an interfaith minister and a beloved spiritual leader, teacher, and counselor. They work with individuals and families to create meaningful ceremonies that honor the celebrants and welcome all guests.

spiritual counselor

Rev. Chani is an ordained interfaith minster who is called to explore the many forms of the divine. As a spiritual counselor, Rev. Chani provides ministry to individuals, couples, and families including interfaith couples, merging families, and congregants struggling with grief, trauma, or marginalized identities. 

Rev. Chani's expertise includes working with people raised in insular or fundamental religious communities who are struggling with residual imprint of early childhood dogma.

Rev. Chani has worked extensively with ex-ultra-orthodox Jews, ex-Mormon, ex-Muslim, and ex-fundamental Christians (especially those home-schooled).

trauma and grief
therapist

Chani is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), grief educator, and trauma therapist with a private practice in New Jersey. They see clients in-person and virtually.

Chani works with people who have experienced trauma, be it religious, sexual abuse, or other. Chani understands the myriad ways in which trauma affects the brain, body, and mind and how it can influence every aspect of daily life, even years or decades later.

Chani's loving, non-judgmental approach provides time and space for patients to reconnect with their authentic selves and find the clarity, inner peace, and inspiration they desire. 

Chani is currently accepting new clients seeking private therapy or counseling.